I was born to parents - one white, one Black - in Lee County Hospital in 1976. They put a pink hat on my head, swaddled me up and took me home to Lochapolka.

I am one of the biracial people, who are called The Loving Generation. My mom was a 19 year old (and hot-pants winner) enrolled at Auburn University - where she’d be the first person in our family to go to college. My father was a Stanford graduate (and a self-proclaimed hippie) who was working for SESHA - the South East Self Help Housing Administration.

They met a a burger restaurant. She was a waitress. And he was - as the kids say - thirsty. They fell in love. They married. And they gave birth to me.

My parents loved (and love) me fiercely. But they were unprepared for what it meant to raise a Black biracial child in the south. They believed that if they loved me that would be enough.

And it wasn’t.

And looking around us today, it still isn’t.

You see, parenting across racial difference comes with a unique set of challenges. It means that as a parent, your identity, your story, and your way of moving through the world is different than your child’s. It requires unique skills, proactive nurture and a lot of de-centered listening ability to raise a child of a different race.  Love is absolutely the required foundation. And, there was more that my parents needed.

They just didn’t know what they didn’t know.

I want, very much, to put the ten years of intensive psychotherapy, my role as a DEI consultant and antiracism educator and my healed and loving relationship with both parents to work helping many other families navigating this difference.

That’s why I’m launching the Loving Collective.

I want the Loving Collective to be a place where…

White parents of Black and Black-biracial children can ask questions, work on individual bias, and connect with one another, without fear of judgement. A place where love for their child is believed and valued, and where mistakes are seen as valuable for growth.

A place where we can share tools for proactive parenting across racial difference so that this next generation of Black and Black biracial children are resilient and confident.

And a place where we can come together in community and celebrate, grow, learn and heal together. In a way that’s intimate and supportive, kind and challenging.  A place for loving accountability.

I’m still working on the details.

But you see the potential, right?

I dream of a community of white parents of Black and Black biracial children sharing stories, supporting one another, learning together, and where a community dedicated to that kind of racially fluent, proactive parenting, could lead us in 1 year, 3 years or 5 years from now. Or even a generation from now.

THAT’S what gets me excited.

But here’s what I’m VERY clear on…

I can’t do this alone and I don’t have all the answers.

It’s definitely not perfect (yet) and there are many things we still need to work out.

But the vision is there. And that’s why I’d love to extend an early invitation to you. I want you to be part of this… especially if you’re willing to help me shape this idea.

Meaning, if you join me as a founding member and you’re willing to help contribute ideas on how we can make this THE best place to support white parents of Black and Black biracial children in gaining skills, tools and confidence, I would like to extend a very favorable “founding member” price.

When this offer is extended to the general public, I anticipate the starting price for this to be somewhere in the neighborhood of $25 per month.

Here’s the best part though…

Join me today as a founding member and your price will be $10 per month. AND… you’ll be locked into that founding member price for as long as you remain a member.

So even when we do roll this out to the general public at the higher price, your price will always be the founding member price. AND if you’re not a white parent of a Black or Black biracial parent but you have one in your friend or family group, I’m happy to extend this to them too. Feel free to send them a link to this page. Because friends help friends, right?

As I said, all the details for this are not figured out yet. Nothing has officially been created. And I expect some of the best ideas will come from you and others who join me as a founding member.

But the goal is to officially launch this on August 15.

So between now and then, things will be happening fast and furious based on the ideas flowing back and forth between founding members.

It all begins here today.

And years from now we'll look back on this and say “do you remember when…”.

Join me. Become a founding member.

All you need to do is simply…

I hope to see you inside as a founding member!!!!

Here’s to your success and here’s to the success of our new community!